“Feminine bodies now speak symbolically of this necessary in their slender spare shape and the currently fashionably men’s-wear look.” (Bordo, 2368).
Bordo’s article about the ideology of the feminine mystique seems disturbingly true, as she characterizes the parallels between women’s views of themselves and contemporary cultural ideals. But as Bordo points out in this quote, femininity does not just consist of what the media thinks a women’s body should look like, but rather it also consists of what society says a women’s role in the workforce or at home should be, thereby forcing women to conform to two entirely different standards. In the day of Bordo’s writing, current day, women are expected to be independent and to have a job with equal pay as a man, but this forces them to conform to masculine and feminine ideals as Bordo exemplifies in the above quote. This therefore creates a double standard that makes it extremely difficult for a woman to have a successful career in today’s society and still have a traditional family, as while women are now almost expected to take on “men’s work” and have a job, men are not yet expected to take on “women’s work” and take care of the household. Until the feminine and masculine ideals balance, women will always feel an increasing amount of pressure to be perfect, and sadly the female diseases described by Bordo will only worsen in severity as women try to conform both their bodies and their attitudes to modern life.
“You’ve got to work with what you’ve got”---(Hopkinson, 276)
Cynthia in Nalo Hopkinson’s “A Habit of Waste” struggles with her body image and does not seem to live her life to its fullest and eat all the foods she enjoys, for fear of becoming fat. She is so adamant about changing her body, that she saves for five years, just so she can buy what she believes to be a more attractive body, but in doing so she no longer looks like herself and deprives herself of once traditional and tasty foods, such as her parents’ cocoa tea.
As she admits in this quote, Cynthia realizes by the end of the story that the exact image of her body is less important than the person she becomes in it. I think she begins to realize this when she sees the woman on the bus “wearing the body [she] used to have”, but unlike herself in this body, this women is “far from looking graceless, her high, round bottom twitched confidently with each step, giving her a proud sexiness that I never had” (263), showing Cynthia that personality and confidence make the person, not their body.
As Cynthia gets to know Mr. Morris and revels at his resourcefulness, she begins to realize the importance of “use[ing] what you’ve got” to create the best life possible, until she finally comes to terms with her body and decides to eat Thanksgiving dinner without worrying about the calories.
This story is thereby trying to say that while body image may seem important to shaping who we are, the true value of our lives rests on not our perfect shape, but on our personality and the confidence we exude. It is this confidence and personality that create beauty, regardless of a person’s external experience.